In my ever-filled spam email inbox, I recently saw this email subject title: “Do you really believe in your coaching?”
That caught my attention. Do I? Do I really believe in what I do? Who I am? The services I provide?
No matter who we are and what we do, there is always the issue of self-doubt. Taking an occasional gut-check can be a great tool to assess whether or not you are living in line with your goals. Often, it is because of that gut-check test that clients often come to me: My job search isn’t working, this career is not fulfilling my soul, I feel stuck at point A and can’t figure out how to get to point B.
The problem comes when the gut-check turns into the Negative Nelly voice in your head. All that self-doubt and negative soundtrack WILL keep you from your next big thing. It might be subliminal messages, but those around you will pick up on it and it will turn others away. What you believe in your head IS what will come to pass.
Let me share with you a few phrases of this email:
- “Did you know that the #1 key to your success long-term, is how much you believe in yourself? You may think you believe (in your worth) with all of your heart, but do you? Can you really say with certainty, “Hiring me is the best thing potential (employers) can possibly do for themselves!”
This is probably costing you your next job if you don’t believe 100% in your ability and your value! That interviewer will pick up on your hesitancy and lack of self-confidence and won’t be able to build his confidence in you either, or perhaps you “let them off the hook” instead of “closing the deal” during an interview. You say it’s because you don’t want to feel pushy, but in reality it’s because your self-doubt is sabotaging this critical moment in your success. (And let me just throw in this aside and say that “feeling pushy” and actually “being pushy” are two different things!)
- “THE POWER OF CERTAINTY: When you believe 100% that hiring you is the absolute best thing potential (employer) can possibly do for themselves, miraculous things happen…”
I love how this email talks about “your desire to get hired so that you can help them is so strong” that you blow right through interview obstacles. Think about what this looks like. No longer are you looking/feeling desperate because the focus is not on your needs, but theirs. Your sincerity and confidence that you are the solution to the interviewer’s current problem shines through. You calm whatever fears and doubts they might have getting in their own way. Plus, your confidence (your “feeling rock solid” – I absolutely love that definition of confidence) will shine through, and potential employers will be drawn to you “in a compellingly powerful way.” Man, wouldn’t that be an AWESOME INTERVIEW?? To leave with the interviewer compellingly drawn to you?
- “WHY IT’S TRUE: “Hiring you is the best thing they can possibly do for themselves!” Why is this true? Because of all the goals and dreams they have and all of the challenges (the potential employer is) facing right now: If (the potential employer) had your help they would be more likely to reach their goals, and get there faster, PLUS they’d be more likely to overcome their frustrating challenges.”
So often, I repeat this phrase over and over to my clients. The point of a resume, interview, etc. is to help the potential employer understand how you are the answer to their problems. That is really the real question of every interview. Why should I hire you? What can you do for me? How can you help me? Answer that question effectively, and 90% of the time, you WILL get the job.
What can you do to create that Power of Certainty in your own career and job search? Start with a Career Coach, who can help you objectively analyze your skills and experiences, catch the negative voices and start you in a new positive personal feedback cycle, and help you create your own perfect path to career success.